90-days of disgustingly clear communication • 1:1You've figured it out...
& you're still hitting the same walls.
find the places you're still living by old rules. figure out waht's really yours. then build the nerve to go after it - in love, money, work and everything else."Very few investments have created the kind of ripple effect this work has." Katie R.
"It helped me build the capacity to stay present with myself instead of running away." Taylor T.
Free 45-minute call · Online · No pitch unless you ask for one
90
days12
1:1 sessions75
minutes eachmon- fri
telegram supportYou built the life —but was it built for you?
✓ You say yes, then resent them for taking your yes seriously.✓ You want deeper love, pleasure, more money and space but get weird the second you have to ask for it.✓ You know why you react the way you do. And the second it really matters, the old version of you still takes over.
✓ You say you’re “fine” because explaining what you really need feels way more uncomfortable than staying pissed off.
✓ You decide what someone meant before you’ve asked them, then react to the story like it already happened.
✓ You want to be supported, but the second someone shows up for you, part of you wants to take over and do it yourself.
THE FAULT LINESWHAT THIS ISWe find the fault lines.
Then we do something about them.
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I show you where your words and actions don’t match.
The yes you didn’t mean. The rate you lowered. The person you rejected before they could reject you.
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Your body usually gives you away first.
The fake smile. The urge to explain, disappear, fix it or run.
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We try something different.
Role-play. Expression. Alter egos. Hard conversations. Saying the thing another way.
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You learn how to do this without me.
I’ll help you with the text in front of you, and I’ll also teach you what to look for next time.
How to ask clearly. How to say no. How to hold a boundary. How to handle conflict. How to repair after it goes badly. How to notice when fear, shame or panic is starting to run the conversation.
So six months from now, you’re not thinking, “shit, what would Amanda tell me to write?”
CLIENT RESULTSthey took the risk to lose friendship OVER SELF respect.
"Even though I did loose him at the end as his ego could not handle it lol I am happy that such a person is not part of my life anymore and that I chose myself."
CORALIECame in unable to say what she didn't like
between sessionsThis is what Monday to Friday looks like
Using the tools she learned with her longtime partner.
Under two hours after a 49-minute call.
client results“I’m sober. I haven’t used alcohol. i’m weaning off my anti-depressants”
The same client, 90 days later
nobody’s 90 days look the same.
this is roughly how it goes.
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FIND OUT WHAT YOU WANTNot what society told you and especially not what keeps everyone happy. We leave the “supposed-to’s” at the door.
We start with finding your yes, no, maybe, not yet and your I Want list.
how the 90 days go02/
FIND THE FAULT LINESThe shame. The harsh inner critic that’s never satisfied. The old rules about money, love, being difficult and being too much.
Then we test those rules instead of talking about them endlessly. This the experimental part.
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back to yourselfReal conversations. Real asks. Real skin the game. Real conflict.
We keep track of what you actually did, and at the end we pull out your original I Want list and see what changed.
This is what it looks like in real life.
WHAT STARTS TO CHANGe-
And you don't send three paragraphs explaining it.
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Without feeling weak, indebted or out of control.
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Big things. Weird things. Expensive things. Inconvenient things.
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No instant discount. No nervous laugh. No explanation.
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Sometimes it simply isn’t for you.
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When it’s yes. When it’s no. When you changed your mind.
you’re going to practice all of this in a safe space, not just learn it.
12 sessions.
75 minutes each. getting to the root of you.
INSIDE A SESSIONEvery week you leave with something to try: a somatic practice, an expression practice, a journal prompt, or a real conversation you've been putting off. You go do it, and you come back and tell me what happened.
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The text. The fight. The rate. The yes you didn’t mean. The exact scenario.
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We look at what happened right before you said yes, shut down, changed the number, started explaining or wanted to run
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Where what you say you want and what you’re actually doing don’t match.
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Role-play it. Say it differently. Stand up. Move. Try the version you normally wouldn’t.
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Send the message. Say the number. Have the conversation.
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Tell me what happened. What you said. What you didn’t say. Where you bailed. Where you surprised yourself. We use that to decide what happens next.
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You: I cut him off. His texts were so inconsistent. He texted me back EIGHT HOURS later. The audacity. The whole group chat agrees he's just another fuckboy.
Amanda (your new certified relationship coach): K boo, wait a second. Did you tell him how you want to communicate over text? That it matters to you to hear back the same day? Did you ask if he could meet you there?
You: No. I have high standards and this is a boundary. If he wanted to, he would.
Amanda: I love that you have high standards and want someone who's ALL in. And that sounds more like a wall than a boundary. You didn't give him the chance to meet you there or not.
You: I have a really strong intuition. I just know I attract these guys over and over.
Amanda: I agree you have a strong intuition. Let's not confuse it with fear, because in your body they can feel exactly the same. That's why we slow it down.
You: So I text him and then what, he just changes?
Amanda: Maybe. Maybe not. You tell him what matters to you, and then you get to watch what he does with it. If he can't meet you there, that's real information.
You: Sighhhh. Okay. Will you help me write the text?
Amanda: LFGGGGG.
Help with the real stuff
03Texts. Rates. Boundaries. Money conversations. Dating conversations. Conflict + repair.
04We practice how to ask clearly, say no, hold a boundary, handle conflict and repair after something goes sideways. You learn what to do when your body wants to shut down, over-explain, attack, agree, or run.
The point is that you can use this again next week, next year, and with people I’ve never met.
0506weekly sessions
0112 private Zoom sessions · 75 minutes each
Telegram, Mon to Fri
02Send the draft, the voice note, the "okay I did it." I reply within 24 hours.
what’s included90 days of DISGUSTINGLY CLEAR COMMUNICATION, and everything in between.
TOOLS YOU KEEP USING
Your I Want list
Everything you want goes on it. Even the embarrassing stuff. We come back to it throughout the 90 days.
I WANT PROOF
If you said you were going to have the conversation, ask for the number or do the thing, I’m going to ask you what happened.
We keep track of what has changed.
CLIENT RESULTSin their words.
client results
GRAB the free guide
do this before you say yes.
figure our your distinct yes, no, maybe and not yet before you make decisions you’ll be regretting later.
WHO YOU'D BE WORKING WITHYour accountability buddy, relationship coach, communication nerd + professional bullshit
caller-outer in your pocket.
Trained in consent, boundaries + trauma.And, critically, not fucking boring.HI, I’m Amanda.
A big part of my own work started with one annoying question:
Do I really want this?
Years of psychotherapy, body-based work and a hell of a lot of hard conversations later, I got much better at answering it.
I love ambitious humans. I promise I’m not here to make you into a meditating fairy goddess.
I just want the fire pointed at something that’s actually yours.
Certified relationship coach · ASIS Board Certified Somatic Intimacy Coach & Sexologist · ACSB Board Certified Sexological Bodyworker · Sacred Theater & Energetic Mastery Facilitator
WHy THISYou've got books, a therapist
and ChatGPT. Why this?
fair question.
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therapy
Therapy helped me enormously.
This is less “why do I do this?” and more “okay, how are you going to do differently now?” And the most important part is to do it badly, feel awful, and find out you're still standing.
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Great for helping you write the text. I can help you notice why you’ve rewritten it fourteen times, what you’re still not saying, and ask you on Friday whether you actually sent it.
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Books + podcasts
I’ve read them all.
At some point, you have to close the book and do the difficult thing.
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Your group chat
They love you.
Which is exactly why they’re not always the ones to tell you where you might be avoiding something.
what you getPrivate · Online · 90 days
✓ 12 private sessions, 75 minutes each✓ Telegram support, Monday to Friday, replies within 24 hours✓ Help with real texts, asks and money convos
✓ Weekly practices built around what you’re working on✓ Your I Want list and progress tracking✓ Final session + personal plan for what you keep practising after we finishNot included: therapy, diagnosis or crisis support · on-call or weekend messaging · couples sessions
The investment: We talk about the price on the call once we both know the work makes sense. Pay in full or across three monthly payments. No convincing.
what happens next
BOOK A FREE CALLBring one real thing you’re stuck on.
WE FIND THE FAULT LINEYou’ll leave knowing where I’d start.
Free · 45 minutes · Online · No pitch unless you ask for one
YOU DECIDEIf it’s a fit, I send the agreement and we begin.
Is this right for you?
honestly✓ You’d rather be shown where your story doesn’t add up than told you’re doing great
✓ You want someone to remember what you said you were going to do and ask you about it later.✓ You’ve achieved things and are starting to question whether all of them were actually what you wanted✓ You know your patterns and are annoyed you still repeat them✓ You want more—money, love, pleasure, space, help, creativity and want to stop feeling guilty for it✓ You’re willing to try things differentlynot a fit if
× You mainly want somebody else to change
× You want me to tell you exactly what to do
× You want one big breakthrough instead of intentionally practicing something different
× You’re currently in crisis or need clinical mental-health care
× You’re looking for hands-on bodywork — that’s my Lisbon work →
QUESTIONSeverything else
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No. This is coaching and education.
We may talk about your past, but we mostly work with how it’s showing up in your life now.
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Trying on a different way of being long enough to see what happens.
Not becoming fake. Just stepping outside your usual way of doing things.
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Sometimes.
Money is one very obvious place to see what you believe you’re allowed to want, ask for and receive.
The same thing can show up in love, work, sex, family, rest and being seen.
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No.
Relationships are one place these things show up. They’re not the only place.
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Good.
Most of the people I work best with have.
You need to catch what happens when the moment happens in real time.
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We discuss the price on the call.
Payment is available in full or across three monthly payments.
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I’m not going to decide that for you.
I’ll tell you exactly what I think we’d work on, what’s included and what it costs.
Then you decide.
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Not specifically.
Sex can come into the work because wanting, asking, shame, pleasure and saying no tend to show up there pretty clearly.
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You can send messages whenever something happens.
I reply Monday to Friday, usually within 24 hours.
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Enough to practice the work.
Some weeks that’s ten minutes.
Some weeks it’s one conversation you’ve been avoiding for a year.
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Tell me.
If you genuinely want to leave, you can.But if something between us feels off, we talk about it before disappearing becomes the only option.
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I’m a certified relationship coach, ASIS Board Certified Somatic Intimacy Coach & Sexologist, and ACSB Board Certified Sexological Bodyworker.
I’m a certified Sacred Theater Somatics and Energetic Mastery facilitator with Madelyn Moon.I’ve also trained in body-based approaches, consent, communication, shame, conflict and repair, Focusing and Clean Language.
YOU CAN DO IT ALONE. YOU ALWAYS HAVE. BUT DO YOU STILL WANT TO?
You have to be a little delusional to want something that doesn't exist yet. I was. One place where you know you’re stuck. One place where you keep saying:
“I know, but…”
We’ll start there.
Not sure yet?
DM me "KEYWORD" on Instagram and I'll answer you myself.