90-days •  1:1

You've figured it out...

& to your utter disbelief and desperate frustration

you're still hitting the same walls.

find the places you're still living by old rules. figure out waht's really yours. then build the nerve to go after it - in love, money, work and everything else.

"Very few investments have created the kind of ripple effect this work has." Katie R.

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"It helped me build the capacity to stay present with myself instead of running away." Taylor T.

See HOW IT WORKS

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90

days

12

1:1 sessions

75

minutes each

mon- fri

telegram support

You built the life —but was it built for you?

✓  You say yes, then resent them for taking your yes seriously.
✓  You want more—money, love, help, pleasure, space but get weird the second you have to ask for it.
✓  You’ve done the therapy. You know the pattern. And the second it really matters, the old version of you still takes over.
THE FAULT LINES
WHAT THIS IS

We find the fault lines.

Then we do something about them.

  • I show you where your words and actions don’t match.

    The yes you didn’t mean. The rate you lowered. The person you rejected before they could reject you.

  • Your body usually gives you away first.

    The fake smile. The urge to explain, disappear, fix it or run.

  • We try something different.

    Role-play. Expression. Alter egos. Hard conversations. Saying the thing another way.

  • Then you go do it in real life.

    The text. The ask. The boundary. The number. The conversation you’ve been avoiding.

CLIENT RESULTS

took the risk to lose the friendship OVER SELF respect.

"Even though I did loose him at the end as his ego could not handle it lol I am happy that such a person is not part of my life anymore and that I chose myself."

CORALIE

Came in unable to say what she didn't like

between sessions

This is what Monday to Friday looks like

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Using the tools she learned with her longtime partner.

Under two hours after a 49-minute call.

client results

“I’m sober. I haven’t used alcohol. i’m weaning off my anti-depressants”

The same client, 90 days later

nobody’s 90 days look the same. this is roughly how it goes.

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FIND OUT WHAT YOU WANT

Not what society told you and especially not what keeps everyone happy. We leave the “supposed-to’s” at the door.

We start with finding your yes, no, maybe, not yet and your I Want list.

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FIND THE FAULT LINES

The shame. The harsh inner critic that’s never satisfied. The old rules about money, love, being difficult and being too much.

Then we test those rules instead of talking about them forever.

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back to yourself

Real conversations. Real asks. Real skin the game. Real conflict.

At the end, we pull out your original I Want list and see what changed.

This is what it looks like in real life.

WHAT STARTS TO CHANGe

  • And you don't send three paragraphs explaining it.

  • Without feeling weak, indebted or out of control.

  • Big things. Weird things. Expensive things. Inconvenient things.

  • No instant discount. No nervous laugh. No explanation.

  • Sometimes it simply isn’t for you.

  • When it’s yes. When it’s no. When you changed your mind.

I can need you without disappearing inside the relationship.

12 sessions.
75 minutes each. No performing.

Every week you leave with something to try: a somatic practice, an expression practice, a journal prompt, or a real conversation you've been putting off. You go do it, and you come back and tell me what happened.

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  • The text. The fight. The rate. The yes you didn’t mean. The exact scenario.

  • We look at what happened right before you said yes, shut down, changed the number, started explaining or wanted to run

  • Where what you say you want and what you’re actually doing don’t match.

  • Role-play it. Say it differently. Stand up. Move. Try the version you normally wouldn’t.

  • Send the message. Say the number. Have the conversation.

  • We breakdown what happened, all feelings involved from a somatic perspective.

  • You: I cut him off. His texts were so inconsistent. He texted me back EIGHT HOURS later. The audacity. The whole group chat agrees he's just another fuckboy.

    Amanda (your new certified relationship coach): K boo, wait a second. Did you tell him how you want to communicate over text? That it matters to you to hear back the same day? Did you ask if he could meet you there?

    You: No. I have high standards and this is a boundary. If he wanted to, he would.

    Amanda: I love that you have high standards and want someone who's ALL in. And that sounds more like a wall than a boundary. You didn't give him the chance to meet you there or not.

    You: I have a really strong intuition. I just know I attract these guys over and over.

    Amanda: I agree you have a strong intuition. Let's not confuse it with fear, because in your body they can feel exactly the same. That's why we slow it down.

    You: So I text him and then what, he just changes?

    Amanda: Maybe. Maybe not. You tell him what matters to you, and then you get to watch what he does with it. If he can't meet you there, that's real information.

    You: Sighhhh. Okay. Will you help me write the text?

    Amanda: LFGGGGG.

Help with the real stuff

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Texts. Rates. Boundaries. Money conversations. Dating conversations. Conflict resolution after an argument.

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Exercises, prompts, role-play and real-life experiments.

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weekly sessions

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12 private Zoom sessions · 75 minutes each

Telegram, Mon to Fri

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Send the draft, the voice note, the "okay I did it." I reply within 24 hours.

what’s included

Ninety days of sessions, and everything in between.

Practices btw sessions

Your I Want list

Everything you want goes on it. Even the embarrassing stuff.

our agreements

You’re allowed to disagree with me, get pissed off, pull away and tell me something feels off.

We talk about that too.

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HOW TO INTERRUPT A SHAME SPIRAL

Five things that work when you're in it, and why thinking your way out doesn't.

WHO YOU'D BE WORKING WITH

I wanted to prove everybody wrong. So I did.

HI, I’m Amanda.

I grew up on food stamps with the electricity getting shut off. I started working at 14, moved countries, opened a restaurant without speaking Portuguese and then built a business that made a million dollars in a year.

I had the money. The independence. The team. The freedom.

And I still wasn’t fulfilled.

Because I had become very good at going after things without ever stopping to ask:

Do I actually want this?

What changed me was 540 hours of therapy, years of body-based work and a lot of hard conversations done badly before I learned to do them better.

I’m not here to make you less ambitious.

I want the fire pointed at something that’s actually yours.

Certified relationship coach · ASIS Board Certified Somatic Intimacy Coach & Sexologist · ACSB Board Certified Sexological Bodyworker

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client results

  • "FROM THE OUTSIDE, MY LIFE LOOKED EXACTLY HOW I WANTED IT TO LOOK...

    What I couldn't admit was that I wasn't really inside of it. That has changed. I feel more present in my relationships, my body, my work, and my day-to-day life. That is worth more than I can easily put into words.”

  • "VERY FEW INVESTMENTS HAVE CREATED THE KIND OF RIPPLE EFFECT THIS WORK HAS...

    and I invest easily in my business, my health and my growth. The improvements showed up in places I wasn't expecting: my relationship, my decision-making, my ability to rest, and my sense of connection to my own life.

  • "This coaching helped me with my addiction to work...

    it had become automatic. What surprised me was discovering how often I reached for it when I felt stressed or vulnerable. It helped me build the capacity to stay present with myself instead of running away. The result has been a much stronger connection to the life I already had.”

  • "Amanda Helped save my marriage

    I was at the brink of giving up. I thought I had tried literally everything. The WoC and Somatic Yes and No were game-changers for me. I wish I would have learned this decades ago.”

in-person

I also work in-person with my hands in Lisbon, offering somatic bodywork, pelvic care, and scar tissue remediation for pain, numbness, and recovery after birth or surgery.

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YOU CAN DO IT ALONE. YOU ALWAYS HAVE. BUT DO YOU STILL WANT TO?

You have to be a little delusional to want something that doesn't exist yet. I was. By believing in it passionately enough, you start creating it. We start with one real moment, on a free call.

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