Let me take a lucky guess…

YOU KEEP TALKING YOURSELF OUT OF WHAT YOU WANT.

When your body doesn’t feel safe, you default to what’s always worked: staying silent, smoothing things over, calling it “fine.” In 1:1 sessions, we slow the moment down so you can feel what’s yours (and what’s not) and choose differently—right when it matters.

Somatic therapy for women rebuilding self-trust after a separation.

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What we build together

  • Replace self-doubt with self-leadership you can feel in your body.

  • Hold a limit without over-functioning, fixing, or rescuing.

  • Let other people have their feelings without making it your job to manage them.

  • Ask directly, without apology, justification, or a “backdoor exit.”

  • Build capacity for disappointment, uncertainty, and not knowing.

  • Catch the stress response earlier and shorten your recovery time.

  • Navigate co-parenting without losing yourself to guilt or reactivity.

    Date with discernment instead of chemistry-as-compatibility.

  • Feel steadier during big life transitions…

  • Stop doing everything alone just to avoid feeling “needy.”

What that looks like in real life

  • You know what you want while you’re still in the conversation, not days later.

  • You stop outsourcing your decisions and needing a second opinion for every message.

  • You can express a need without overexplaining.

  • You can handle someone’s disappointment without making it your emergency.

WHAT A SESSION ACTUALLY LOOKS LIKE

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  • In our sessions, we work with what’s happening right now, something you’re actively navigating in your relationships, not a theoretical example.

    We slow the moment down enough to catch where you leave yourself: the tightening, the urgency, the story your mind starts spinning, the guilt, the habitual “just say yes.”

    Then we practice a different choice in a way your body can actually hold.

    Sometimes that looks like learning how to stay present through discomfort instead of performing. Sometimes it looks like rebuilding your ability to tolerate disappointment without backtracking, fixing, or managing someone else’s emotions.

    And we don’t keep it in the room. You apply this in your real life, texts, conversations, co-parenting, dating, family dynamics, until self-trust becomes your default.

  • This work is paced. We don’t force big leaps. We build steadiness first, then practice change in small, repeatable ways.

    You’ll leave sessions with something you can use immediately, because the goal is change that translates to your real life. Over time, you stop negotiating yourself out of what you want. You become someone who can feel what’s true and stay with it.

    • You’re self-aware and you want to do the work.

    • You’re ready to stop being at the mercy of your patterns and start creating your life on purpose. You’re willing to be honest, take responsibility, and practice, even when it’s uncomfortable.

    • You don’t have to be fearless (this is confronting work). But you do need to be all in.

  • Patterns built over years don’t change in a weekend. If you’re ready for lasting change, we’ll build it through consistency, clear support, real practice and a structure that makes it easier to follow through.

    6-Month 1:1 Package

    What’s included:

    • (3) 1:1calls per month

    • Unlimited Telegram support (Monday–Friday)

    • 3-month release of service

    Sessions are held online via Zoom.

    • This isn’t a pep talk. It’s not scripts.

    • It’s not forcing confidence through “mindset.”

    • It’s not more analyzing your past without building skills now.

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What Clients Are Saying —

“Amanda’s has an amazing intuition that allows her to softly nudge you towards self-exploration that feels both nourishing and grounded. Her inquiries and questions hit the nail on the head - without ever feeling too much or intrusive. As a person who slowly opens up to new people - I deeply appreciated her personally adjusted sessions and discovered heart-warming insights that will stay with me for a long time.”

— Len R.

“Amanda carries a kind of presence that sees into your soul, not with intrusion but with invitation. During our practice, she offered words of appreciation that touched something so tender in me… something I didn’t even know was longing to be seen. I felt deeply understood and so loved, exactly as I am. Her laughter, her honesty, her willingness to be raw & real… it created a sacred kind of mirror. Human to human. Soul to soul. The container we co-created felt like a living thing, a shared heart-space filled with truth, tenderness, and so much awe. Her loving words are painted on the walls of my heart’s chambers.”

— Caro W.

FAQ

  • Talk therapy can help you understand your patterns. Somatic work helps you change what happens in the moment your body wants to people-please, overexplain, freeze, or say yes when something feels off. We still talk, but we also slow things down and work with what your body is doing in real time—so insight turns into new choices.

  • No. You won’t be pushed to tell your whole story or relive anything. We go at a pace your system can handle. through this work you build a steady internal foundation, learning what’s happening inside you, and practicing new responses that actually stick.

  • We start with something real you’re dealing with: an interaction, a decision, a relationship dynamic, a text you’re stuck on. Then we slow it down and track where you feel uncertain: the constriction, the urgency, the guilt, the “just say yes” reflex. From there, we practice a new way of staying with yourself.

  • That’s very common, and this is where we find the core of the pattern and rewire it. We work with what’s happening, not against it. If you shut down, we slow down. If you get overwhelmed, we come back to safety and steadiness. The whole point is building capacity, so you don’t have to white-knuckle your way through hard moments. I am trauma-informed and board certified, you will be fully supported in all kinds of reactions and responses that may occur.

  • Yes. People-pleasing and overexplaining are often strategies your body uses to keep connection safe. We work on noticing the reflex earlier and building the ability to pause, stay with yourself, and communicate clearly without the long, possibly anxious explanation.

  • Yes. Often spiraling comes from your system treating distance or uncertainty like danger. Fears of rejection and abandonment trigger all the warning signs in our system. This is so normal, our body is always trying to protect us in the ways it learned from early childhood development. We work on how to stay connected to yourself: disconnect from the inner critic, notice the patterns (catastrophic thinking, etc) and responding differently when that fear shows up, from clarity instead of panic.

  • Yes but not in a “just say no” way. The real work is learning how to tolerate the discomfort that comes with choosing yourself, especially if your nervous system equates disappointment with danger. Over time, limits start to feel more natural and the guilt doesn’t get the final vote. Like everything in life, it’s a practice and we do this together. Practicing in a safe, non-judgmental container is what allows the nervous system to open.

  • Because insight isn’t the same as embodiment. You can understand your pattern and still override yourself when pressure hits. If your body learned that being easy, agreeable, or helpful was safer, it will keep doing that even when your mind knows better. This work is designed for that exact gap.

  • Yes. This is a huge transition where self-trust matters more than ever. especially if you’re rebuilding your identity, navigating co-parenting, or starting to date again. Many women come to this work because they don’t want their next chapter to repeat the same dynamic.

  • Yes. We’ll practice with the real conversations you’re having: how to stay steady, how to be clear, how to stop managing everyone else’s emotions and how to tolerate someone else’s reaction.

  • You can feel a shift quickly especially when you learn how to pause and somatically come back to yourself. Lasting change takes repetition. This is why I recommend consistent work over time: your old patterns were practiced for years, and we’re building a new default.

  • If you relate to this pattern, perfectionism and the thinking “not ready yet” also goes hand in hand. There will never be a clear sign to start or feel ready, trust me. You don’t have to feel confident to start. You do have to be willing. If you’re ready to show up honestly, practice, and take responsibility for changing the pattern, you’re ready.

Meet Amanda

somatic practitioner

I help women learn to trust themselves so that they stop repeating the same patterns in relationships.

The women I work with are smart, capable, and self-aware. They can name their pattern. They’ve done therapy. They’ve read the books. And still, when it’s time to actually choose, speak, or set a limit, something in the body takes over. They accommodate, manage, over-explain. They say yes when something feels off. And afterward they’re left with that familiar crash: “Why did I do that again?”

I know this loop because I lived it. I was married for 12 years, and I also know what it’s like to be separated and suddenly see how much of your life has been shaped by self-sacrifice, the relationship, protecting the family unit, and staying safe. And when you’re a mother, the stakes feel even higher because it’s not just your heart you’re managing, it’s the whole system.

I was the one who moved to another country, learned a new language, and built a life without my family around me. I poured myself into someone else’s family system and family business. I tried to be good. Easy. Helpful. Grateful. The kind of woman who holds everything together.

The hardest part wasn’t knowing I was unhappy. It was the back and forth. I tried couples therapy. I was in my own therapy. I did everything “right.” And still, when it came time to actually choose myself, my nervous system treated it like a threat. Because choosing myself didn’t just mean ending a relationship. It meant leaving the family home. The life I’d built for 12 years. The comfort. The identity. The version of me who knew how to survive there.

And my body wasn’t subtle about it. The breakdown of my marriage affected everything. My hormones were all over the place. My periods became irregular. I was losing hair. I lost weight. It was like my body was saying: something has to change.

When I left, I left with nothing, not because I hadn’t contributed, but because so much of what I helped build wasn’t mine to keep. If you’re a mother, you understand what that kind of decision costs. It’s not just heartbreak. It’s logistics. It’s grief. It’s fear. It’s “How do I do this without my family?” It’s choosing the unknown because staying is slowly erasing you.

At my worst, I couldn’t sleep because I was spiraling, replaying conversations, scanning for what I missed, jumping to the worst-case scenario. I had panic attacks. I would overthink an interaction so many times that I started to feel confused about what actually happened versus what I imagined. That’s how loud my nervous system was. That’s how much energy went into trying to hold it all together.

And I didn’t ignore it. I went after it hard. I was in talk therapy 3 times a week. I read every self-development book under the sun. I tried to think my way into clarity. I could explain my patterns and trauma in detail. But in the moments that mattered, when someone might be disappointed, when things felt uncertain, when I worried I’d be too much, I still overrode myself. Then more shame built up and the cycle would begin over and over again.

What finally changed things wasn’t more insight. It was learning how to trust myself. Learning how to trust the signals in my body. Not just to figure out whether something was a yes or a no, but to feel full in myself again. I started practicing how to direct my attention back to me, to my own strength and ability, instead of automatically tracking someone else. I learned to treat my needs like they mattered, to express them without shame, and to get them met without over-explaining or earning it. I learned how to separate what was mine from what wasn’t - my feelings from their feelings, my responsibility from their reaction.

I also had to rebuild my will. To choose on purpose, over and over again, even when my body wanted to default to “whatever keeps the peace.” I learned to hear my inner critic without letting it run the whole show. I found my voice again, my preferences, my limits, my truth, and I practiced expressing dissatisfaction without collapsing, apologizing, or panicking about the possible rejection or abandonment.

Now, I can feel what’s true, say it clearly, and let someone else have their reaction without making it my emergency.
And I have a life I’m proud of. I have my own home. I do work I genuinely love. I’m happy. I’m in a relationship with a man I love and it’s not built on me sacrificing myself. I don’t have regrets. It wasn’t easy, but I found my way back to me. And that’s the greatest gift I could ever give my daughters.

That’s what self-trust looked like for me. Not a mindset but a practiced and lived skill. And that’s what I help you build now, step by step, in the exact situations where you might lose yourself.

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